Yes, but, do you remember what you felt like when it was time to ‘meet the parents’? What did you feel like when you had to meet their parents? What did you feel like when they had to meet yours?
So, what’s so nerve-wracking about ‘meeting the parents’? Is the anxiety real? Is it the collision of two separate worlds? Is it the importance of both?
That led me to the question, is there a difference between the professional you and the personal you. Would your customers, vendors, partners, employer approve of your ‘at home’ self? Would your children and spouse think less of you if they saw the way you are at work? Do you hate going to work? Does your job grate on your principles?
If there’s a difference between your two selves, if you have different ethics for work and play you could be causing yourself unnecessary stress and conflict. That’s why I love it when one of my clients tells me that their spouse or child asks them, “What does Rick think?”
What brought this post on? Monday night, Elaine and I went out to dinner with Carole Mahoney, her husband, Steve (the birthday boy), Nate, her oldest whose birthday was the next day, and Michael, the younger brother. Nobody had to pretend and everybody had a good time.